This
is the virtual end of virtual me. Julie Goucher's inspired series of
The Book of Me Written by You will continue in 2015 without me. It's
been challenging, it's been fun, sometimes serious. It prompted,
reminded, encouraged so many of us to record our own memories and
biographical bits. I will continue to add to my Memoirs file.
What
are your priorities? (Prompt 67)
What are your priorities? American author, Kathleen Winsor owns this quote: "Most people are so busy knocking themselves out trying to do everything they think they should do, they never get around to do what they want to do."
What are your priorities? American author, Kathleen Winsor owns this quote: "Most people are so busy knocking themselves out trying to do everything they think they should do, they never get around to do what they want to do."
How
much of life is necessary routine and how much is left for "what
you want to do"? A lot of adult prime time is naturally consumed
with working to earn shelter and food, then transforming the food
into meals and keeping the shelter maintained to some minimum
standards of hygiene and respectability (unless you're a rabid
genealogist). Also to mention the care and feeding and counselling of
pop-up junior human beans. Attending to social relationships and
obligations take up more time.
Genealogists
have been known to abandon all such normal human activities, living
in bunkers with crates of paper and a figurative umbilical cord to
the Internet with all its technological manifestations. Ergo, a
resemblance to decent humanity may be accidental.
But
...
Any
genealogist will tell you s/he is doing what they want to do. Lucky
us who find or make the time! The way the world works, this generally
happens when you reach Seniorhood, that affirmative age of bucket
lists and wishful self-indulgence.
I do love those tartans, don't I? |
It
is resolved that the FRASERS Family History must be completed this
year!
Secondarily,
Brenda must work on revisions to the DOUGALL and LATVIAN ancestors!
Memory
Tree (Prompt 68)
Julie showed us this image to illustrate the prompt. Think of those who will not be with us for the festive / holiday season. Who would you put on your memory tree and why? friends and family, former pets and colleagues.
Julie showed us this image to illustrate the prompt. Think of those who will not be with us for the festive / holiday season. Who would you put on your memory tree and why? friends and family, former pets and colleagues.
My
parents are up there for many reasons, a strong one being that my
children never knew them. I'd put my kids there too, cuz they're not
around most any time of the year. Plus a host of other relatives I
knew, who left us too soon.
What
is your most treasured possession? (Prompt
69)
This
could be something that you have bought from an inheritance, a gift
from a family member, or an item from a friend. How do you plan to
secure its survival with future generations?
Over
the years we collect so many things. And we have favourites.
Then a lot of us find that we have to downsize at a certain point of
life. Maybe more than once. De-cluttering is like a preliminary step.
Sentiment must be governed by stern practicalities. Give away or
sell. Wedding gifts of a million years ago are useless if they only
gather dust. What is the one thing I won't be parted from? My
mother's engagement ring, I guess. Or ... And ... Oh my, I seem to be
merging this with Prompt 66. Well, literary licence and all that.
My
children may or may not respect and love my treasures after I am
gone. If anyone figures out how to spy on them from the afterlife and
threaten the disobedient with unholy disasters, do please let me know
before it's too late.
What
have you learnt about yourself and your family? (Final Prompt, No.
70)
Think back to the question we asked in Prompt One - Who am I? Before you review the answers you wrote then, answer the question again. Now compare: Are there similarities? Is it the same, or have any answers changed? In the wider, original question, what have you learnt about yourself and your family? Anything you still want to write / explore?
Think back to the question we asked in Prompt One - Who am I? Before you review the answers you wrote then, answer the question again. Now compare: Are there similarities? Is it the same, or have any answers changed? In the wider, original question, what have you learnt about yourself and your family? Anything you still want to write / explore?
Memory
being what it is, I can't for the life of me recall if the original
question was more extensive, i.e. more details to the prompt? I do
believe many people answered with bullet points. One of my thoughts
is that the question ―
who am I ― would
definitely be answered somewhat differently at each stage of a long
life. But we are where we are, so let's see; it's still a mystery
where this is going until I check back with Prompt 1:
Now:
I
am a writer, a family historian, a genealogist, a mother, a
grandmother, a camel chaser, allergy survivor, and always an
optimist, solitary dancer, defender of redheads, and part-time
hermit.
Then:
I
see what I did was cheat. I ticked off everything Julie had listed
for herself, which I can't find now (good excuse) with a few
amendments including camel chaser. Doubting that I've changed a bit
over the length of the series.
The
wider view: Myself is the same writer of irreverent tendency but I
still have much to learn about my family, living and dead. And the
cosmos is endless for writing and exploring. As my Free Thinker
Grandpa would say: So long, see you in the Land of Imagination.
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